Dating Smarter, Not Harder
Let's imagine you've found "the one."
You're drawn to him, you like each other's company, you're compatible, and you even enjoy each other's quirks. Should you delete your profile and quit speaking with other men? If your answer was yes, then you need to reconsider your dating strategy.
Devoting all your time and energy to a single man before he gives you ‘the commitment you desire’ can actually slow down the process and prevent you from finding the love you deserve.
This is because men and women approach commitment in different ways. It's simple for us to picture the bridal gown and write his last name right after your first name. Men, on the other hand, usually take their time deciding where a relationship is going.
The best approach to allow him to fall in love with you – and to ensure that you have the time you require to make an informed judgment about him – is to continue dating other men.
When a man realizes he can't take you for granted since you're busy and aren't investing all your hopes in him, he'll want to become closer to you. It makes him feel compelled to "win" you all to himself. Biologically, men do not value anything that they don’t earn. The masculine values doing and achieve through grit and hard work because they are the “giving energy.” Feminine energy is the receiving energy, so it feels totally natural to this energy to ‘get’ without having to do anything to ‘earn.’
When he can't take the thought of you being with anyone else, that's when he'll ask for your commitment.
ALWAYS keep your options open…
By dating, I mean DON'T stop flirting with men and accepting lunch or dinner invites.
When a man realizes he can't take you for granted since you're busy and aren't investing all your hopes in him, he'll want to become closer to you.
When you do this, dating becomes an enjoyable, worthwhile experience that allows you to figure out what kind of spouse you want. Every man you meet is a gift that helps you to grow as a person and understand what you want – and don't want – from a relationship.
Another advantage of this strategy is that your Mr. Right may not be like anything you envisioned - he might even be better, but in a totally different way than you expected. You allow the mate who is actually right for you to find you by not closing yourself off to dating too soon.
Keep the focus on yourself, not men…
You accomplish two things by diverting the focus back to you and away from the men.
#1 First, knowing that you haven't made him the center of your universe keeps a man motivated to court you and win you over. If a man thinks that you are completely devoted to him before he has asked for a commitment, he will find you less appealing. Men fall in love through committing to you… earning you, and he won't be able to do so until you allow him the space to do so - therefore, give him the space!
#2 The second reason you should continue dating is that it alters your energy and makes you irresistible.
You become infinitely more appealing by focusing on yourself and doing the things that make you feel warm, romantic, and sexy on the inside. This is referred to as "dating yourself." It indicates you indulge in the things you enjoy. You engage in activities that bring you pleasure, from taking adventure trips to sipping your favorite tea.
You no longer feel desperate but rather liberated. You are feeling generous and abundant rather than needy. You feel strong on the inside when you date yourself or flirt with other men. You feel desired and sexy. Most importantly, it gives you the impression that you have options for feeling full and happy.
Finding the ideal man and inspiring his love and loyalty for the rest of your life requires having the right energy vibe. And, once you've found the relationship of your dreams, keep dating yourself to keep the focus on what really matters and inspire your man to love you forever.
I was able to totally change the quality of men in my life. Since shifting my energy, I’ve never been with a partner who is being selfish or distant. If you’re dating guys who are trying to do dutch on dates or talking about themselves for hours, you can start dating successful, secure men who are strong, providers, and clearly convey their intentions to you.
Hey love, let’s stay together…
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