Pique His Interest & Make Him Fall in Love All Over Again
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Ever wondered if your relationship would be "Okay" if you could just attract his attention, but you've been unsure of what to do and how to behave?
What if making sure both you and the guy you're dating are on the same page is all you need to stop worrying about keeping him interested in you?
Wouldn't it be better if you could create that feeling so that he is the one asking you for a commitment?
Isn’t it funny how in the beginning they are the ones chasing us and then one day, somehow, you wake up and all of the sudden it feels like you’re the one chasing them? Somehow you’ve become the one wondering “what are we?,” “is he still interested in me?,” and “what changed?”
His actions and words that cause you to feel this way are subtle that you might even believe that you’re making it up or it’s “all in your head.”
Do any of these scenarios sounds familiar?
As soon as he arrives home, whether it's a quick "how's your day?" or something less substantial like "Hello?"
You find yourself toggling between wanting to reach out to him and also wanting to put him out of your mind.
You find him attractive, but it seems like he takes your relationship for granted, so you begin to wonder: “Would I be putting up with this sh*t if he was ugly?”
Maybe you’re communicating your needs, but he still seems not quite “get it” and still fails to “step up.”
It always feel like it's just too much work to keep a guy engaged and over and over again one person in the relationship starts to lose interest.
Don’t worry, I’ve been there too, and it’s one of the most frustrating things to experience these thoughts and feelings.
I know what it feels like to be sick to the stomach worrying… “does he still like me?”
When I began having these thoughts, I began feeling like I need to be “performing” for me. I felt on edge and on guard. I felt as if I had to put on a show of my brilliant intelligence and sweet charm in order to make him interested. In my mind, I felt obligated to "capture" men's attention. It was a complete waste of time for me.
But through all those yucky performance feelings, I didn’t stop to think if there were other ways I could get what I wanted… one’s that didn’t involve performing…
Why was I trying to please them? They should be trying to please me. I am the prize.
This is how women have viewed themselves for centuries. That is why there were entire systems for decorum in courting a lady in many countries and even within the animal kingdom.
We see it with male penguins who search endlessly for the perfect pebble to give to his lifelong betrothed partner.
It starts with rock-solid self-esteem and knowing what you deserve…
To be in relationship with a man who can truly love you, YOU must first truly love YOU. This is impossible if YOU don't feel good about yourself. No matter how much you try or how sweet and sexy you are, or whether you say things the "right way," your marriage, relationship, or dating life will always be on an emotional roller coaster until you begin to change your self-image.
Men began to treat me differently only when I began treating myself differently. They did not attend classes to become better men. They changed to adapt to me. They became great men because they were inspired to become better men to court me. My change transformed them.
Here’s a quote from one of them:
“I know it sounds corny but after meeting you I’ve wanted to step up my game a little and do more.” - H May 13th, 2022
When you don’t focus on men, it allows you to focus on nurturing yourself, which, incidentally, makes you infinitely more attractive to them. I simply focus on what I want for MYSELF, not what I want them to do.
Instead of thinking, “I don’t want to be with a guy who forgets to text me,” I think “wow, I feel really turned on when a man is making an effort with me and planning dates with me. Get out of thinking about what you lack and into thinking about what you desire for you.
When I focused on what I didn’t want and what he’s failing to do, I got more of it. I felt isolated, neglected, and undesirable.
Let me take you back to a time in my personal story when my boyfriend pulled away from me. I felty a deep sense of longing and sickening pain in my stomach. Even thought we lived together, he seemed to be miles away. I wanted to scream in frustration because I didn’t even know how to come up with a logical reason for what I was feeling because there was nothing tangible that he did that I could point to as the issue. I felt like I was in prison.
I wanted to blame him . I wanted to bring him close and rip him apart at the same time for making me feel this way. I was so focused on him and what he was seeming to do “to me” out of spite.
I thought that my actions and trying harder could get me out of this mess. It had always worked when it came to school or my career. I tried making us dinner and planning things, but nothing seemed to work. He just continued to pull away as I was trying to chase him down and bring him back. The more he pulled away the more desperate and despressed I became.
I tried talking to my girlfriend, guyfriends, therapist, and family, but I could not find a way to tell my partner how I really felt in a way that he would actually understand and care. I felt so disconnected from the one person I was supposed to most connected to. I felt completely helpless… and I felt like he was purposefully withholding love from me.
Everything changed the instant I flipped the switch in my head. And the good news is that it's something that anyone can do.
So, if you catch yourself dwelling on what you don't have, the only thing you need to do to shift your reality is to shift your focus.
Stop thinking of him as a "go-to" source of love to fill your cup. Do not let him become your Fountain Of Love, and do not go to him to fill your vessel with his love.
Fountains don't water other things or people; they water themselves. A Fountain Of Love is an image you can use to visualize yourself as a self-loving, self-cared-for person.
The pain of not getting what you desire from your man will be relieved by this. Also, he'll be able to tell that you're no longer dependent on his affections for your happiness.
He’ll finally notice that you’re your own source of love.
You'll finally experience what it's like when he wants to share his love with you. Your Fountain will get used to seeing him, and he'll begin to reciprocate the affection.The final phase in this "Thought Switch" is to change your mindset. You don't want a man who only wants to sip from your Fountain of Love. A good man in your life must also want to "water your love" or bring water to your fountain in order to be allowed access to your energy.
He must maintain your fountain brimming with passion to be qualified to be in your life. How does this thought feel in your body? To move from him doing nothing to him doing everything is a big step, but that's the way it works. Keeping a constant focus on the image of the “Fountain of Love” will help you allow only those who pour into you and nourish you into your life.
Prepare to feel surprise when you start doing less, and he starts doing more.
You'll be surprised by how good you'll feel about yourself, not just about him. You’ll feel better about yourself when you look in the mirror. As your self-esteem rises, so does your level of self-confidence.
And he'll heed your confidence, even if you don't accomplish anything!
It's a wonderful feeling to have a meaningful connection with a man, especially one that happens so rapidly when you retake your position as the prize and as the self-watering fountain of love.
In this fast-paced, masculine-celebrated patriarchy, we've 'lost' how to be ourselves as women and appreciate our inner feminine power.
Being your own Love Fountain will become second nature as you practice, and before you know it, you'll have forgotten how difficult it was to start. It becomes second nature.
Despite everything we've been taught, it's not nearly as difficult as we thought to keep a man consistently interested and performing on his best behavior. In the end, you'll be the one who decides which men can stay or go. Even if you are already married, you will regain the strong sense of comfort and confidence you felt on the day of his proposal to you.
I have so much more to share with you love, including:
The key to making a man want to be with you all the time and make him want to caress you, pull you close, and proclaim his love for you.
How to make him want all of your time and attention by changing your energy.
How to get a man to open up and reveal his own feelings with you.
How to get over the fear of being yourself in front of him again, and he'll be more enamored with you as a result.
How to boost your self-esteem so that you'll always feel wonderful, no matter what happens with him.
How to get a man to commit himself to you without even asking.
Hey love, let’s stay together…
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