The Do's & Don't’s of Commitment
Do you know how to get a man to want to commit to you?
These five relationship rules will help you learn how to create that "you're the only woman I want" feeling in your relationship.
While that initial spark is all it takes for a man to ask you out and desire you sexually, there must be something more for him to want to commit to you. Why does anyone commit to anything? Or buy anything for that matter? There needs to be a sense of value and sense of urgency. He must feel compelled to CLAIM you as his own. Wouldn't it be better if you could inspire that feeling in him so that he is the one asking you for a commitment? You can. You only if you follow these steps:
#1 Don’t bring up the subject of "commitment" over & over again
We all want to know what he thinks when we feel anxious or worried about the future of our relationship. As for having a repeating conversation about commitment, he'll only dig in his heels and retreat if he's already on the verge of committing to you on his own when you try to pressure him into it. So, refrain from bringing it up even if you're dying to find out what's on his mind. You clearly state your desires for YOURSELF once or twice, but you’re never trying to convince anyone of anything or hammer it home…. which brings me to my next point….
#2 Don’t try to persuade him
To make matters worse, he'll begin to believe that you're trying to cajole, lobby, or manipulate him. He becomes unable to express his true feelings because of your reasoning (masculine energy). In a romantic relationship with a masculine man, that's the last impression you want to give as a feminine energy woman.
When a man believes he can bring you joy by being authentic and open with you, he's in love. There is no persuasion necessary. You simply state your desires and expect them to be fulfilled. You state your boundaries and expect them to be respected.
#3 Do share your happy thoughts & emotions
Let him know if you're having a good time with him! The masculine loves being appreciated. The more open you are about your emotions, the more likely he is to feel the same way about you. He'll want more of the good stuff. It makes him happy that he's making you happy. It's only natural that he'll want to keep you in his life as you continue to build a stronger foundation of positive feelings for yourself.
#4 Do say what you want in life, whether he is part of it or not
A Sense of Value: Instead of persuading him to commit, talk about your hopes and aspirations for the future. For example, "I feel happy spending time with you. I don't want to put pressure on the relationship. I know I want to be married and have a family of my own. What do you think?"
His enthusiasm will rise if it becomes clear that your primary focus is your own well-being and your goals. He'll see you as a high-value commodity, and he'll be compelled to pursue you.
#5 Do stay open to the possibilities of the universe
Finding out what you want in a relationship is important for dating. This is impossible if you close yourself off to other men before you have the level of commitment you want. The more people you meet and interact with, the better your chances of finding a truly perfect match.
Your world does not revolve around one man. In case it wasn't painfully obvious before, your first obligation should be to YOURSELF.
A Sense of Urgency: A woman who loves him but doesn't need him can make any man want her all to himself. As soon as he realizes how fortunate he is to have you, he'll be compelled to seal the deal before any other suitors get there.
Commitment is an emotional process that men and women go through differently. I really hope that you found this insight into the masculine mind helpful. Marriage is not the only commitment available. This is your life and you get to make the rules. Decide, honestly, what kind of commitment you require to feel loved, safe, cherished, adored, valued…. then don’t settle until you get it.
Hey love, let’s stay together…
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