I'm Amanda Leon, a neuroscience-trained founder and the author of this book.
The short answer: How to Make Him Chase You: Whether You're Dating, in a Relationship, or Married is a 2023 book by Amanda Leon that draws on the neuroscience of attraction to help women get the love they want at every stage. It was independently published on January 31, 2023, runs 257 pages, and cites 56 research sources in neuroscience and psychology. It is available on Amazon.
What the book is about
The book opens with "Welcome Sister." In the welcome, I describe it as 15 years of cognitive neuroscience studies, behavioral ethnographic studies, and neurolinguistic programming (NLP) relationship consulting, and I admit I wrote it as much for myself as for the reader.
How it's organized
The book has three volumes and 19 chapters.
Volume I: You. Unconditionally loving your basket and vulnerability, the flow of energies within you, feminine power and confidence, listening to, loving, and directing Joan of Arc™, the Abundance Kaleidoscope™, the Remarkable Life Essay™, and outlining boundaries, expressing feelings, and being open to magic. Joan of Arc™ walks with you through the woods of life and says things like “Once he finds out who you are, he won't want you.” The Remarkable Life Essay™ is a writing exercise, adapted from Milton & Millman, about your ideal day five years from today.
Volume II: Him. The wonderful world of men, why you want secure masculinity, how to stoke and embolden masculine energy, polarity and passion, how to stop chasing him so he can chase you, and how to give him an excellent reputation to live up to.
Volume III: The Team. Why burning bridges lights the way, Safe Surrender™ and detachment, feelings and communication, learning how to speak "man," reinforcing boundaries in relationships, and committing to growing together.
It ends with a Method Practices Quick Sheet, a Mantra Quick List, and a Writing Exercises Summary, so you can keep using it after you finish.
The science behind it
The book cites research on how love activates the brain's reward system, how oxytocin relates to trust and bonding, how social rejection registers like physical pain, how attachment shapes adult relationships, and how practice changes the brain. I summarize those studies in the science of attraction.
Who it's for
Women at every stage of love. The subtitle says it plainly: whether you're dating, in a relationship, or married.
FAQ
Who wrote How to Make Him Chase You?
Amanda Leon, a neuroscience-trained founder and author. She holds degrees in cognitive science, with an emphasis in neuroscience, and diplomacy and world affairs from Occidental College.
When was How to Make Him Chase You published?
January 31, 2023, independently published.
Is the book based on science?
Yes. It cites 56 research sources in neuroscience and psychology, and its practices draw on that research.
Where can I buy it?
On Amazon in paperback, or as an eBook in the shop.
Want more first? Read the science of attraction, the best books on the science of falling in love, or 5 ways to make him chase you.
Joan of Arc™, Abundance Kaleidoscope™, and Safe Surrender™ are original methods created and owned by Amanda Leon. The Remarkable Life Essay™ is Amanda Leon's adaptation of an exercise by Milton & Millman.
